Monday, 28 March 2016
Wednesday, 23 March 2016
LOVING ONESELF
I was just shopping in a local store few days ago when this phrase
dropped in my heart. I kept debating whether to write or not to write. I felt
led by God to share this: Loving one-self is the first step towards
self-discovery. It is about appreciating yourself no matter who you are, tall
or short, slim or curvy, rich or poor. Loving yourself is the authentic you. It
is the inner beauty and realisation of oneself.
It helps one to be comfortable in his or her own skin. It is your true
voice! It is the main key towards good self-esteem; for some it is a journey of
self-discovery. Pleasing others at the expense of yourself will definitely end
in frustration and regrets. Both loving other people first or always, is like
caging your real self and flaunting your fake personality, which will end in
everlasting regrets later in life. You might be pondering on the above
assertion of mine, well, I am not ignoring the area of reflection and being a
better person; but trying to please others first at the expense of your own
happiness can be disastrous.
No matter how old you may be, no matter the life experience that has
shaped you to lose your real essence; it is never too late to discover yourself
and love yourself. It is the inner beauty and joy that glows out. I have
heard these countless times when people say they felt that a partner, friend,
or a particular profession will bring them joy or maximum satisfaction and it
has ended in frustration.
Having explained what it means to love one self, I think I need to share
some tips that will enhance self-discovery and loving:
1. Forgive yourself no matter the things that has
happened in the past. You might say oh no! You don’t know my story or history,
yet, you need to forgive yourself. Forgiveness I know is a healing process,
there will be a phase of anger, of apportioning blame or believing you are the
reason why others trample on you. There might even be a phase of crying
yourself to bed and awake. That’s another topic for another time.
2. Stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself;
I am sure someone will say it is crazy. ‘’Why should I talk to myself?’’
Believe it or not it works! I am a living proof. I can’t count the number of
times I have had to talk to myself saying ‘Funmi, you are smart, you are beautiful,
you are intelligent, you are a blessing and never let anyone put you down.’ It
enhances self –esteem.
3. Having a firm relationship with God is a key
factor towards loving yourself. For, when all the chips are down, God is ever
present and loving no matter the season!
4. Take good care of yourself/treat yourself- eat
sensibly, dress decently. Be yourself! Whether you do good or bad, people are
still entitled to their opinions. You may not be able to control the things
people say about you, but you can control how you react to it.
5. Choose
to be happy! It is by choice.
6. Discover that hidden talent in you and build
it. Before when I hear people talk about discovering hidden talent, I do say I
have none because I don’t really feel I can have something special. The hidden
talent is the thing you enjoy doing effortlessly. It may be writing, cooking,
making beads, drawing, dancing, baking, collecting antiques, gardening and so
on. There is always something you are good at, that you may not really see as
SPECIAL!
7. Choose your friends carefully.
You might be wondering why I am so passionate about this, I am also a
work in progress. Remember iron sharpens iron!
I will love to read your comments
(c) Funmi Adeyemo 2016
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